A Word to Wives: Living God’s Way

“Then the LORD God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him’ … so the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man , and he slept; then He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh at that place. And the LORD God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man.” – Genesis 2:18, 21-22

Many many years ago–in fact, thousands of years ago–God created a man and named him Adam. God placed him in a gorgeous garden to live, where all kinds of luscious plants and exotic wildlife existed for Adam to enjoy. Everything was truly good–except for one thing: God declared it wasn’t good for man to be alone. God’s answer to Adam’s aloneness was Eve. He fashioned Eve from Adam’s side to live by his side. Specifically, He fashioned her to be Adam’s helper.

I’ve been married almost 24 years, and unfortunately I’m a slow learner in some areas. Because it just recently really connected with me that my major purpose as a wife is to HELP my husband. Humbly I must admit I don’t always like this purpose. Sometimes it honestly has gotten on my nerves when my husband needed me for little duties like making coffee or packing lunch. I’ve periodically possessed a silent, begrudging attitude like “Why can’t he do that himself?” I actually do better with bigger needs–like planning the budget or praying about his particular requests. Yet I’ve realized whether little or big, helping my husband affords a way to imitate the Lord Jesus Christ. He came to earth to serve–not be served. Christ desires us to have servant’s hearts as well.

When sin entered the garden in Genesis 3, God witnessed the human race’s resulting desperate need. Sin separated mankind from Him, so He promised a Savior in Genesis 3:15. Eventually He sent His beloved Son to earth to die and rise again. Though He could have turned His back, God reached out to HELP us. Jesus willingly made a way for us to return into relationship with God. Hallelujah!

God is so kind and gracious to work within us. Despite my many failures as helper to my sweet husband, God has “clicked on the light bulb” so to speak. He’s enabled me to realize this truth in a new way, and He’s changing my attitude. Truly this isn’t the most popular or valued purpose these days. Our culture lacks support for the wife seeking to help her husband. But, let’s remember, it pleases God. It’s His design. Sincerely helping my husband’s entire person–spiritual, physical, mental, and emotional–blesses him and glorifies God.

As wives, we’re always much better off when we live God’s way.

“An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.” – Proverbs 31:10-12

6 Replies to “A Word to Wives: Living God’s Way”

  1. Melissa Smith says: Reply

    Dear Emily, Thank You for message this week. Great minds think alike! God has
    been dealing with me on some concerning my on marriage. After 27 years of being married,you never stop learning. Like, when was the last time you told your husband he looked nice before leaving for work or his hair looked nice the last time he got it cut,or the big one, the last time you told him you love him. We can’t complain about what he is not doing or doing without first looking at ourselves. When you get married, it’s not about you, it becomes about him. If God ever calls me to speak at a marriage bible study, or a group of young married couples, or even a conference, I am there! Because I know what he is doing to restore my on strained marriage to a happy one. Thanks for listening!
    As always, God Bless You. Melissa

    1. Dear Melissa,

      Thank you for your comment. You made some great practical points – especially how our focus as wives shouldn’t be on ourselves but on our husbands. Glad this devotion was meaningful to you!

      Much love in Christ,
      Emily

  2. Kaye Roberts says: Reply

    Thanks, Emily. I need that reminder!

    1. You’re welcome, dear Kaye. I’m repeatedly thankful for the truth of God’s Word and how it applies to regular life.

      Much love in Christ,
      Emily

  3. lisa doucette says: Reply

    Thanks Emily for that reminder. Love the wedding photo of you and Mark – beautiful bride and handsome groom!

    1. Dear Lisa,

      The Lord is good! Thank you for your kind words.

      Much love in Christ,
      Emily

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